Need to get the Property Management Company/Board Members to follow bylaws, they expect everyone else to follow, except them.

I live in a community where the property management says, "we are not allowed to speak with our board members and everything needs to go through her". The property manager cherry-picks what to funnel through to the board and when issues are brought up at one of our very few zoom meetings, that hasn't been canceled, a board member states, "that this is not the place for that", so I email the property management company, where is the place to discuss concerns? and her reply was at the zoom meeting... It's a never-ending loop of insanity!

Also, at the budget ratification Zoom meeting, we had three new people running to for the board, but we're not elected because we didn't make quorum. When I sent an email to the property manager about our bylaws stating, "that we have to have an odd number of people on the board" and we only have 4, why wasn't a 5th one elected? Her response was, "I didn't see that bylaw until yesterday (a month after the meeting) while I was going through looking for something else, it will be discussed".... Seriously??? If a property management company, along with the board, does not know what's in/follows the bylaws, it is no wonder we're being assessed over 5K this year and the manager stated at the recorded board meeting, "according to a survey, this property needs to be assessed every year until 2026, if we ever want to get back on our feet".

I have no doubt that my insurance company will drop me with that many claims. This is the most helpless I have ever felt in my entire life because we can't seem to find a Property Manager that knows what they're doing and board members that have their own agenda. I would rather be a renter, than ever have to live in an HOA community again.